I understand the emotional attachment to stuff.
I love the idea of minimalist living. I strive towards it, in fact. (At a snails pace, yes, but still – I’m striving).
Those who are naturally minimally inclined don’t quite understand the emotional turmoil that some of us feel when we try to take on the task of de cluttering so this post is for all you emotionally attached clutter bugs out there. The ones who want to live in a clutter free space, but struggle because you feel controlled by your stuff.
I get it. I’m high anxiety, seriously over sensitive, and easily over whelmed. Or at least I can be. I work every day to bring my sane self to the surface (that’s what I like to call that little voice of reason that allows me to function – when I choose to listen to her – and I do that more and more these days).
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I’ve learned 4 little tricks to make de – cluttering easier.
De – cluttering is something I have worked on alot in the past couple of years. And man do I love how it feels to live in a home with less stuff. It hasn’t been easy.
If any one can benefit from these tricks I’ve learned to make it easier – well that’d be the icing on the cake. So let me walk you through a typical (for me) decluttering session.
First I tell myself that I will do it no matter how hard it is, because I can do hard things.
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#1 Get permission
The first drawer goes ok.
I get the unused ,broken, don’t even know what this is into a box and I feel pretty proud of myself. Then I pick up something that I know needs to go… but it can’t because… (insert ridiculous reason here).
In the past I would have become discouraged, given up and probably drank some wine. But, now I do this…
Getting rid of the thing trick #1 I call someone who I know values a tidy house and understands the burden that excess stuff can be, and I explain that I need permission to get rid of the thing.
I’m no psychologist and I can’t tell you why this works, but having someone else’s permission and support to get rid of the thing helps immensely.
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#2 Turn the tables
So, then I continue, encouraged.
Until I pick up something that some one gave me. (this totally derails my decluttering train).
I want to get rid of it (oh the guilt)
But I can deal with it because I’ve learned:
Getting rid of the thing trick #2 I imagine that I was the one who had given this thing to someone else and I know that if the thing I gave them was causing the this much stress, I would feel terrible! I would want them to get rid of the thing.
I never gave it to them to burden them. So chances are good that who ever gave me this thing wouldn’t want me burdened with it either. They would want me to get rid of it. Plus it helps to remember that I am emotionally attached to stuff, and other people are not. There is also a good chance that the gifter doesn’t even remember giving me this thing, and just sees it as a thing.
#3 Ask for help
Then, I get to the thing I can not get rid of.
There’s no way. I sort of want to, but my resolve is going and I need this thing for absolutely no reason. I can’t.
Getting rid of the thing trick #3 I get someone else to get rid of it for me. I have to say, I don’t do this very often, and I do it less as I get better at allowing my sane self to be heard.
#4 Get rid of the thing now.
I’m done for the day, so I set the box of stuff on the spare bed. I’ll donate it next time I go to town. I feel ok right now about the things I’m getting rid of and even if some of it was difficult to imagine parting with, at least I get it in the box so I can start coming to terms with the fact that its gone.
I’ve noticed that 89% of the time I never even thing of the thing again after its out of the house.
I’ve also noticed, that if the box stays on the spare bed, the stuff will get out of the box.
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Getting rid of the thing trick #4 Get rid of the thing! Now, while you feel determined, while you have permission, while you understand why it needs to go.
Drive that box right to the thrift store, to the donation bin, to the dump if its stuff no one else will use. Do not let all your hard work go to waste.
You can do this! You can conquer the clutter your stuff does not have to control you.
Also, consider addressing the disorganization in your home – for good. Some times just deluttering isn’t enough.
Addressing the disorganization in my home took me a long way towards keeping the clutter at bay.
But I din’t know where to start, with getting organized and I actually needed someone to teach me how to do it.